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Adaora Obilor — The Fertile Woman Blog

I almost did not write this.

Not because it is not true. Every word of what you are about to read is real. I almost did not write it because even now, sitting here with my daughter sleeping in the next room, talking about those seven years feels like opening a wound I have only recently allowed to close.

But I kept thinking about The woman who smiled through the last naming ceremony she attended and cried in the car on her way home. The one who has stopped telling people she is trying because she cannot bear the follow-up questions. The one who lies awake some nights wondering if her body has simply decided to work against her.

I was that woman for seven years.

I know about the bathroom you run to so nobody hears you cry. The face you fix before you walk back out. I know about your mother-in-law's tantrums and what they have cost you. I know about the money you cannot talk about, the faith you rebuild every month from whatever the last month left behind, and the marriage that is holding together through sheer love and sheer will while something enormous sits between you that neither of you knows how to name.

I know. Because I lived it.

Drop everything you are doing now and read every single word I am about to say.

Our grandmothers did not go to fertility clinics.

They prepared Specifically and deliberately. The way you prepare a field before you plant something precious in it. Their bodies were maintained, nourished, and made ready long before conception was ever attempted. That knowledge was passed from birth attendant to daughter to granddaughter across generations. And then somewhere between that world and this one, it was quietly lost.

It did not disappear. It was just buried. And I found it.

My name is Adaora Obilor.

First thing you should know about me — I am not a doctor. I am not a gynaecologist nor a fertility specialist or a certified naturopath. I am not any of those things.

I am a woman from Anambra who tried to conceive for seven years. Who cried in more bathrooms than she can count. Who spent over one and a half million naira on IVF that failed twice. Who lost two silent pregnancies that the world does not know about. Who sat with Mama Chidinma under a mango tree in Anambra at a family burial, completely out of hope, and found the thing she had been searching for everywhere else for seven years.

I need to tell you everything. Because the parts I almost left out are the parts that will matter most to you.

Charles and I got married in January 2018. We were the couple that had it together: the job, a flat in Lekki, and lots of beautiful plans. I bought folic acid on our honeymoon. I had a little pink notebook for tracking my cycle. I told Charles we would be pregnant in three months. Maybe six.

We smiled. We were so sure.

By the end of 2018, something was already quietly wrong.

Month after month, nothing. By 2019 I had seen two doctors. By 2020 I had seen four. Each one looked at my tests and used different words to say the same frustrating thing: unexplained infertility. No clear blockage. No obvious hormonal disaster. Just... nothing happening. Which is somehow worse than a diagnosis, because at least a diagnosis gives you something to fight.

Charles became quieter. Not cold — but quiet in a new way. The kind of quietness that lives in the gap between what two people want to say and what they actually say when they are both trying to protect the other person from the full weight of what they are feeling.

And I became very good at hiding.

The breaking point came in April 2022.

I was on the phone with my Auntie Ngozi, my mother's older sister, the one who has always been able to read me like a document even over a bad phone connection. I had called to ask about something completely unrelated. And somehow, within four minutes, I was crying in a way I had not cried in front of another human being in over two years.

She listened. She did not offer solutions. And then she said something I have never forgotten.

"Adaora, my daughter. You have been trying to plant something in a ground that has not been prepared. You keep adding seeds and wondering why they will not hold. But nobody has ever prepared the ground for you. That is what is missing. Not faith. Not prayer. But Preparation."

After that phone call, I threw myself into finding solutions. I was done being passive.

By late 2024, I had started to make myself smaller on the inside. Not giving up, because I could never fully give up. But shrinking my hope deliberately so there would be less of it to destroy when the next thing failed.

Then came the burial in Anambra.

We talked for almost two hours. Then she leaned back and said the thing that reordered everything I thought I understood.

"All these things you have tried. The injections. The doctors. The herbs from people who do not know your body. They are all trying to force a result from a body that was never prepared to receive it. You cannot force a harvest from a ground that was not made ready. Your grandmother's body was prepared. Her mother's body was prepared. It was how we did things — not as medicine, as maintenance. As respect for the body. Nobody prepared yours. That is the only thing that has been missing. And we are going to fix it now."

I did not fully believe her. After everything I had been through, skepticism had become a form of self-preservation. But I also had nothing left to lose. So I listened. I wrote everything down. And I started when I got back to Lagos the following week.

The first two weeks were nothing